Cats may not live in packs like dogs, but they definitely establish a “pecking order” to share space and resources. Understanding this hierarchy is the secret to a peaceful home. Here are 6 subtle signs that reveal which cat is actually in charge.

1. Priority at the Food Bowl

In the feline world, the dominant cat usually takes “first dibs.” If you have multiple cats but only one bowl, the higher-ranking cat will eat while the others wait at a distance. To avoid stress, always provide separate bowls in different locations.

2. The Best “Real Estate”

High ground is a status symbol. The dominant cat will claim the highest perch on the cat tree or the sunniest spot on the sofa. If a lower-ranked cat is already there, the “alpha” might simply stare or nudge them until they move.

3. Dominance During Play

Watch how they react to a wand toy. The dominant cat is usually the boldest, leaping and pouncing first. The subordinate cat might sit back and watch, only joining in once the leader has finished or moved on.

4. The “Power Grooming” Move

It looks sweet, but “force-grooming” is often a display of authority. The dominant cat will pin the other down and lick their head or neck intensely. It’s their way of saying, “I’m in control here,” even while being helpful.

5. Sparring and Pinning

Occasional scuffles are normal, but pay attention to the outcome. The dominant cat usually ends up on top, pinning the other down. The subordinate cat will eventually roll onto its back or retreat to signal that they accept the other’s rank.

6. Marking and Patrols

The leader of the house often spends more time “patrolling” the territory. They may rub their cheeks on furniture more frequently or spend more time at entry points, signaling to the other cats that this is their domain.

Expert Tips for a Peaceful Home

To reduce tension, follow the “n+1” rule: provide one more of everything (bowls, litter boxes, beds) than the number of cats you have. This ensures that even the lowest-ranking cat feels secure and has access to essential resources without being bullied.